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meowgrrr

is this true that women don’t need to recharge? i’ve always found i can’t orgasm again until i’ve slept. (either full nights sleep or a good nap).


qlippothvi

I think the OP stated this is a generalization. Both women and men have been known to have multiple orgasms. The stated hypothesis is that the human penis’s head is built to scoops out competing sperm, and so the refractory period is to keep the male from removing his own sperm. Multiple male orgasms usually occur right after the other, so the second testicle is used to fire off again, basically continuing the same process.


meowgrrr

very interesting. i always just assumed all women needed to recharge and women not needing to was the exception. honestly i thought it was just a thing from movies and porn, but that most women needed to recharge. didn’t realize i was just unlucky!


6ofh

It’s true. You might be different tho.


Omsk_Camill

Maybe you are a man? Might want to double check


SvodolaDarkfury

Ooh I know this one. The penis stays hard until ejaculation because it had the opportunity to remove rival sperm up until that point. Once an ejaculation occurs, you don't want to risk pulling your own stuff out, so the body releases a hormone (I think its a form of pitocin) to soften and allow blood to flow out of the penis. Thus a brief reset period is forced. Fun fact: there actually is a cool down for women, it's just much less pronounced and the recovery period is much quicker. For men recovery is usually 15-30 minutes, while women often recover in under two to five minutes. These are generalities and not true for all folks of course, and it changes with age. Young men tend to have faster recovery than older men, for example.


Norcal712

15-30 min... God damn, I already thought my ED was bad....


SvodolaDarkfury

That's in healthy men with no underlying conditions. Its fairly common not to be in that spectrum don't worry :-)


Norcal712

I dont have any diagnosed condition. Have average Testerone levels and work out regularly. Have always had stamina/refractory issues. Cutting out porn didnt help. Honestly hoping therapy will. Thanks for the thought though


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Norcal712

I should probably drink less booze. I barely take in any caffeine. Good point


qlippothvi

“Whiskey dick” is a real thing, because alcohol affects your blood vessels, of which your penis is very sensitive to those changes. I think the simple test to determine if it is physiological or psychological is whether you get erections in the morning.


Norcal712

Havent had morning wood in years. Unless I completely obstain for 3+ weeks. Tested that out last year. Fwiw 36. White.


Tap_Z_or_R_Twice

What do you mostly drink/how often, if you don't mind me asking?


Norcal712

I dont drink much. Maybe a 6 pack a week of beerm ill get a mixed drink if I go out to dinner. Bi weekly at most


ttamimi

Whiskey dick sounds like a British delicacy


JSkiMetal186

It was AKA as a Foster's flop for a while.


FlyOnTheWall4

It’s the alcohol


SvodolaDarkfury

Anxiety and depression are both fairly common in men ages 18-49, somewhere in the range of 25-35% right now during the pandemic. Stress alone can affect erections, and if a partner is taking it personally and comments on it that can additionally put stress on the situation. Therapy is often helpful to resolve the underlying anxieties as you are functionally fine but your stress hormones could be affecting the process of not only erection but also achieving orgasm. Source: I'm a mental health therapist.


Norcal712

Makes sense. Im trying to find a better way to connect to my current therapist. Been 12 sessions or so over 4 months and it still feels way too much like 1 sided casual conversation


SvodolaDarkfury

My advice is tell your therapist that. Confrontation is uncomfortable but they can't fix what they don't know. And maybe they can refer you out if their style isn't good for you.


Norcal712

I asked him to be more specific with answers and suggestions. So Ill try to think of a different way to word it. I found someone who does CBT and the journaling has helped some.


MetaMetatron

Some men have longer refractory periods, as long as 4 hours or more


nhergen

Just get some bluechew


hrlc1990

Man I really don’t want to give unsolicited advice, but a lot of it has to do with diet. I had mild ED when I was at my heaviest, but when I ate super healthy I was like a rutting deer on the last day of spring.


FavcolorisREDdit

Lmao I was a trucker also and I believe that contributed to it, hours sitting down shitty food choices and lack of sleep too much cortisol


Norcal712

Also a trucker, but home daily. Maybe the sitting still an issue


FavcolorisREDdit

I’ve been local also and a lot of days I would feel drained


Norcal712

Its definitely not condusive to mental or physical health.


FavcolorisREDdit

Def not conducive for ones nutsack lol


Norcal712

A smashed swamp isnt good for sperm..... Damn


FavcolorisREDdit

Indeed


jjman72

Minutes? Are you sure that’s not supposed to be in hours.


hehehexd13

Lol I wish my refractory period was minutes, I have to wait at least 1 hour if I’m lucky, and I’m healthy in every aspect. There goes my self esteem I guess


SvodolaDarkfury

Again this is not true for everyone and this is PURELY the physical aspect. Don't forget that you need your own arousal process to restart, etc., And most of the time we are satiated by a single orgasm/ejaculation.


Inevitable-Chemist-4

Read this in Spencer Reid’s voice for some reason. (Criminal Minds)


Warphim

Follow up question: Occasionally (and especially on certain drugs), some men are able to cum multiple times. Is this a hormone issue or something else? I know that can work on it to make it more consistent.


SvodolaDarkfury

Do you mean within the same period with a refractory (reset) period? The function of ejaculation and orgasm are actually separate in men, but they usually occur at the same time so most men don't notice that. Orgasm can occur where a large ejaculation does not occur. Basically men feel the good feeling without a significant discharge of semen. It is possible to continue without a refractory period and have multiple ejaculations and it's not harmful. It is largely dependent on the individual. When I was 18 I could do that occasionally, but at 33 it's not possible anymore. I think it is likely a hormone related thing but I do not know for sure. The function would be the arousal hormones overriding a cool down period hormone.


deanall

Damn I've been wondering. Like woman I just made sweet love to you.


qlippothvi

I’m no doctor or expert. Both women and men have been known to have multiple orgasms. Your stated hypothesis is that the human penis’s head is built to scoops out a competitors sperm (popular scientific opinion), and so the refractory period is to keep the male from removing his own sperm. Multiple male orgasms usually occur right after the other, so the second testicle is used to fire off again, basically continuing the same process and bypassing this issue? I’m not sure, but sounds good.


SvodolaDarkfury

The second half of this is completely medically inaccurate. You don't "shoot all" the sperm in a single ejaculation, nor does it switch from testicle to testicle. The refractory period (whatever it's reason) had nothing to do with sperm availability. What you're describing as multiple male orgasms in a row are actually repeated ejaculations from the same series of orgasms before a refractory period begins.


monkchop

What is the reason some men DON’T need to recharge and can keep going without a break and cum a second time?


oaktreebr

I don't know why, but I don't need to recharge. And can cum not only 2, but 3 to 4 times. I learned recently that this is not the case for everyone. :)


monkchop

My partner is the same way, I really enjoy it.


vanishchocolate

Someone answer this I'm scared 😂 sometimes I don't need recharge I can go continuously.


monkchop

We need answers!!


fireanswer

As I got older, my refractory period was shit until I started working out and getting healthy. Now I can wait maybe 10-15 minutes until I'm ready to go again Once I came and still had an erection. Freaked me out. Kept going


FowlOnTheHill

That gives me hope! I’ll put away my dentures and hit the gym!


hehehexd13

I’m fit and healthy, yet my refractory period is at least 1 hour. I really hope it is because of genetics, so I can excuse myself with it


DosMangos

*Hump hump hump* “Gah!… Whoa this is freaking me out!” …*Hump hump hump-*


fireanswer

Yea that's pretty much what happened


megalodongolus

The doubles are the best


Cecil_the_Rengar

Bruh I'm young and pretty in shape and my refractory period is still 1h+. What did you do?


fireanswer

I got in shape. Worked for me. Might now work for others


hehehexd13

Lol same


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hgwxx7_

Do you already have a fitness regimen?


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hgwxx7_

Personally I’ve found lifting weights to have a positive effect on my libido. I think the /r/Fitness wiki is a good place to start if you want to start lifting more - https://thefitness.wiki/routines/r-fitness-basic-beginner-routine/ Its a simple routine that should work out most parts of your body. 6 exercises total, 3 each day. I found that following it for about 5-6 weeks while increasing the weights each week started yielding visible results. I’m on week 11 right now, never felt better.


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hgwxx7_

No problem. It was still fresh on my mind because I spoke about this to a friend recently. He’s also a runner like you, but wanted to get into weight lifting. Here’s some other stuff I told him: The core ideas are - Choose the exercises you want to do. Watch videos on how to do them before heading to the gym. If you can, record yourself and compare your form to the videos. - Number of repetitions can be anywhere between 3 and 30, whatever works for you. 8-12 is the most common range. I generally do 10 reps, 3 times. You should keep going until you can’t do any more with good form. - Take your time with rest between sets. I take 1-2 mins, enough time for my heart rate to drop to a comfortable range. - Track your progress. Start with low weights and try to progressively increase the weights week over week. Tracking takes out the guesswork “how much should I lift today?” - Once you have a good routine going, feel free to add supporting exercises. For example, if progress deadlift is being limited by grip strength, add an exercise to help with that. - Stretch well before and after the gym session. Foam rolling helps too in limiting the risk of injury. - Stick with it. Keep going, even if you don’t feel it that day. If you like I can share a link to a Google sheet I made for him to track his regimen - run, workout A, run, workout B, run, rest. It also had links to YouTube videos on how to do these 6 exercises.


Deganveran

Is it bad if you don't need to recharge? Is it rare? I generally go at least twice but I've gone three times finishing every time no stopping at all and I legit didn't know that wasn't normal til now.


crlyle

You’re very lucky. I’ve been sexually active with men and women since I was 16 and dude. .. once I cum it’s over, let’s go to bed, lol I’m 38 now 🤷🏼‍♀️


hehehexd13

LOL I’m relieved it’s not just me. Once I cum, there’s no cuming back 😂


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1320Fastback

this guy fuks


Alexmercer216

Can someone please explain this highly intellectual statement? I'm too stupid for this.


fancy_marmot

"settle in the vava and make babs" omg


zarqie

Is this how babby formed?


FowlOnTheHill

Can u get pregarnate?


T_Blown_Diffuser

For the uninitiated - [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EShUeudtaFg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EShUeudtaFg) ([musical](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDvaRF4HQHQ)) If I had to die laughing, this would be the video.


FowlOnTheHill

Dangerops!!


dinnerwithallie

Cue music


Connortsunami

>can u get pomegranate Ftfy


AltruisticMost3756

r/brandnewsentence


Pheade

Are you trying to tell me that my goo delivery system is also a good retrieval system?


SSDD1

The body puts a great deal of energy, hormones, and nutrients into making and expelling sperm and semen. If you ejaculate after sex with a partner, you also have to rest from exercise. The body needs fuel and rest, not more strenuous and nutrient intensive activities.


No-YouShutUp

But how does that explain men who preejaculate ? They can’t just go again even though they’ve expelled virtually no energy


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NobleOxide98

That's kinda been my theory too In nature there is an advantage to cumming quickly. So as mammals, our default is probably to always cum quickly. Once we started being social creatures and/or started mating with singular partners, the prolonged pleasure of sex became more valuable to us. In even more recent time, the ability for a man to please a woman has become very important to finding and keeping a partner. In short, we naturally lean towards cumming to fast but modern social pressures and views on sex push us to train ourselves to last longer. Nature vs nurture kinda thing.


Piorn

Hasn't it been scientifically shown that the only animals who have sex for **fun** are humans and dolphins? Even apes only do it for procreation.


jatea

That's a myth. Haven't you ever seen a horny dog that will hump anything?


Omsk_Camill

That's not pleasure lol. It's like peeing, just released from discomfort.


jatea

Ok Dr.


NobleOxide98

I remember hearing that too but I can't remember where exactly. The theory that went along with it was that because we have sex for pleasure were more likely to do more often since we crave it.


vanishchocolate

https://youtu.be/6KwNY07dryY Can't say that's true


vanishchocolate

Wait.... Is there something wrong with me ..... It takes me maybe 5 mins to recharge..... sometimes less than a minute......


hmasta88

Yes, you do tend to feel super relaxed and sensitive after a release of mini rockets at your target.. but you should be able to go longer and harder until you cannot anymore. It depends on the man!


Cant_Quit_U

Think of men's testicles as two double A batteries. They need to be recharged, do they not? Think of the ejaculate as the electrical current. Think of the tip of the penis as the positive side, and the balls as the negative side. Thank you


oaktreebr

Actually, the testicles play no role during ejaculation. The semen are produced by the prostate gland and the seminal vesicles. The sperms produced by the testicles take 3 months to reach the vesicles.


hidden-in-plainsight

You're welcome?


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hmasta88

Ofc you can pee you dunder muffin! You should always pee to avoid UTI. Sit and wait a few minutes.... nothing? Run the water and concentrate, it'll flow. Be amazed. Pee. Thank me later.


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hmasta88

Reddit @ 2 am aint good for me it seems. Good night.


ntengineer

A man's testicles don't produce semen. Try again.


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beyardo

Sperm are formed in the testicles, but the majority of seminal fluid is produced by the prostate


Geshman

/r/confidentlyincorrect Just take a moment to figure out why you're just proving yourself wrong with that link


Greatbigdog69

Seminal fluid is produced in the prostate and seminal vesicles. Sperm is produced in the testes. Only the combination of sperm and seminal fluid is called semen. So you were both half right.


Egad86

r/confidentlyincorrect


ntengineer

Testicles produce sperm. Then those sperm go to the epididymis to mature. The testicles aren't involved in ejaculation at all. It does amaze me how dumb people can be on the internet for sure. And how they can't admit they are wrong.


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soxpoxsox

But women don't have to recharge, is the basis for the question. Something to do with semen output?


FowlOnTheHill

I don’t know any of the science but sperm/semen is expelled like a gun, so it needs to literally reload before it can go again


Pigscanbeunicornstoo

Yeh but you don’t have to do anything. You can just get oral but still guys take longer to orgasm multiple times.


clownbreath

Women don’t need to recharge since it’s beneficial that they never get satisfied. The women who got satisfied quick are a dead branch in our monkey tree.


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listy61

Well I did want to click on r/gaming post "what's the the most violent game you have ever played" and boy did I get an awakening when I read the top comment before I had to read the title again. Thanks auto refresh on my phone.