By - ComprehensiveGuava76
I have a 5yo daughter and a 9mo son. I am a stay at home mom and have been since my daughter was born. It's equal parts insanity and complete joy. My kids are wonderful. Smart, happy and sweet. But omg, I have to tell my 5yo not to do something a million times a day. I literally say the same 5 phrases 100x a day. Every day. You have to answer lots of questions. Understand meltdowns when you do something as simple as breakdown a cardboard box, because it was "special". You will never know true fear until you have kids. Fear you're feeding them garbage. Fear of flying on a plane. Fear that they will say something awful in public. Fear the diaper will not contain the poo. But, it's also amazing. They make me laugh, they help me learn new things (because of questions, like : How is cheese made?) It's a a daily commitment and it can be hard, but for me, worth it!!!! And the love is amazing! My baby gives me kisses, my 5yo loves my "jelly belly" and cuddles. My kids are my greatest joy and my biggest stress. I just hope I'm a good mom, everyday.
That was an amazing experience! I must say that you are compromising a lot to be a good parent. Keep it up
Thank you! All parents need encouragement and support. It can be lonely and tough raising little people. I appreciate your encouragment!
It's definitely a balancing act, but for me, I don't consider it a sacrifice. My daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm gaga for my kid. I would do anything for her without hesitation.
Everyone has a different experience regarding their family. I am happy to hear yours
Apparently absolutely miserable. There's a top post from yesterday on this sub or one of the other questions subs asking if anybody else stays up late just to get a moment of alone time. Or people who say they stay in the bathroom playing games on their phones because it's the only time they get peace and quiet. Holy fuck that existence sounds absolutely horrifying. I have to think the parents who say "It's the best / most rewarding thing" are succumbing to some kind of stockholm syndrome, denial, lack of anything else to show for their lives, or a mix of all three.
I would say, this is a true emotion 😅
Definitely a roller coaster. Dad of 2 boys, 7 and 10.
It's messy (diapers, spit up, and they grab and touch everything)
It's hard (lack of sleep, constant dread over the realization you are solely responsible for keeping a tiny human alive)
It's joy (random tackle hugs, kisses, "I love yous")
It's maddening (not listening, generally ignoring what you say)
It's hilarious (random stories, bad jokes, and "hey watch this"l
It's loud, oh my goodness is it loud
I could go on, but overall it's the hardest, must rewarding job I've ever had, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
What a cute way you have used to describe your parenting. I hope this is helpful for every parent out here
Thanks. I hope so too. Parenthood is a one of a kind experience.
(father of a 2 month old)" whatever you do to prepare there is no one who can tell you for the task at hand. It's the scariest thing i've ever done and i feel constantly underprepared. I love her and it's the most rewarding thing i've ever done/will do
I can understand 😅
My kids are still young so it’s hard to say if they will be at all like me but I do try to overlook certain aspects. They are very picky eaters. I can’t complain about it because so was I. I’m hoping that as they help me cook they will want to experiment and try new foods as they get older.
I was a quiet child that listened and my daughter is the opposite. We don’t know where she gets it from. I try to be calm and work to have her focus and pay attention, sometimes I have to raise my voice but I don’t want to be the parent that has to use fear to get my kids to do what’s necessary. When they are young, you can’t necessarily reason with them so you just do the best you can.
It’s important to apologize to your kids when you’ve acted inappropriately. They are more apt to admit to their mistakes if they see their parents do it.
I try really hard to be a good parent - play, read, go to parks/museums/play dates. Sometimes it seems totally pointless as my kids shriek and hit each other but that’s when I know they and I need a nap.
It’s very tiring. And the hope is you can turn them loose on the world, they will look back and smile and say ‘Thank you.’ And that they will be happy in their lives.
Haha surely they will have habits like you have. And maybe whatever they do is the reflection of one of your relatives. I am glad to know that you are trying your best to the best parental version. I know it's hard to deal with little ones but the best part is you are engaged in learning and work all day. Despite being alone and thinking too much. You have kids who grab your attention all the time. I am happy that you have shared your experience, thanks 🙂